Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

First time anal play

How do you incorporate anal play into your sex sessions? I think it works best when both of you are in the mood for particularly naughty, lusty sex and highly aroused. So introduce anal play mid or towards the end of the session rather than at the start. There's another reason to leave it a while - lots of people get so turned on by it, they orgasm immediately!
'Blended' orgasms (the result of two areas being stimulated at once) are quite easily achieved through anal play: insert a dildo or butt plug, finger or tongue inside their anus while continuing to stimulate elsewhere (hands or tongue on genitals or other hotspots or during vaginal intercourse) for an intense orgasm experience.
Butt plugs work particularly well for blended orgasms. While she's got the plug inserted, give her oral sex, play with her breasts, spank her bottom or insert your fingers or a dildo or vibrator into her vagina. If he's wearing the plug, give him a hand-job or head-job, pinch his nipples or play with his testicles. Plugs are also a brilliant way to create the sense of having a third person in bed with you without the complications of having a threesome in real life.

First time butt plug user?

Butt plugs are the perfect beginner's anal toy because they're non-threatening to look at (super-cute actually!) and easy to use.
You simply apply lube then insert into the anus and leave it there while you continue having sex.
Meanwhile, the plug works to stimulate the highly sensitive nerve-endings inside your rectum to make orgasms feel more powerful and intense.
Lots of women love the 'filled up' feeling of having one inserted during intercourse - and they're great preparation for anal intercourse, getting you used to having something inserted where things normally come out, rather than go in!
Using a butt plug for the first time doesn't have to be challenging thanks to the range of sizes available. Your first butt plug should be the same size or just slightly wider than your middle finger.
The tip of the anal plug should be tapered and rounded so it is as easy as possible to begin insertion. A smooth shape (rather than ribbed) will be easiest to insert, although not vital.
A flared base is essential for any butt plug to ensure it doesn't get drawn into the sphincter - beginners should look for especially wide flared bases for peace of mind, such as a T-bar base.
A smooth material such as silicone is probably the best choice for a first time butt plug, but skin-safe rubber or PVC is fine with extra lubricant if you're on a budget.
Avoid anything with phthalates, and unless you know for an iron-clad fact you don't have a latex allergy it might be advisable to avoid materials containing latex - this would not be a good time to find out!


Size Does Matter After All

Size is incredibly important… when it comes to selecting the right anal toy for you. It’s not even just about length, girth is just as important.

Which Anal Sex Toys Are Right For you?

There are anal sex toys available which will appeal and give pleasure to everyone from the trembling, nerve-wracked beginner to the legs-akimbo anal reaming fetishist. Let’s take a look:

Beginner Butt Plugs & Anal Beads

If you’re looking for the traditionally shaped butt plug, the smallest girth butt plugs tend to be around 2.5 to 3 inches circumference at the widest part. With some warm up action from either yourself or a partner, as well as a dollop or two of lube, most people should be able to insert a beginner butt plug of that girth. It is helpful to start by inserting your finger first to ‘feel out’ the lubricated area, and in so doing create a smooth and ready entry-way for the butt plug.

Standard Size Butt Plugs

The recognisable ‘butt plug’ shape (flared base, narrow neck, wider main area finished with a gently pointed tip) is seen in what I’d call standard butt plugs. Not tiny and not large, standard size butt plugs tend to be about 5 inches in circumference at the widest part. They can vary between 4.5 and 6 inches.

Large Butt Plugs

For the expert anal adventurer looking for a new challenge, large butt plugs do exist and wow – they do go up to some eye-watering sizes.

Specialist Butt Plugs

Examples of specialist butt plugs are inflatable and lockable types, for the more kinky amongst you. Perhaps the best known specialist anal sex toys are prostate massagers. I tend to call the prostate the ‘boy butt bonus’ because that’s what it is, really – only guys have this walnut shaped gland inside the anal area which can be stimulated for intense anal pleasure. Even better, regular stimulation of the prostate keeps it nice and healthy.
Prostate massagers benefit from years of research into how best to stimulate the prostate gland, and they’re specially shaped to do a brilliant job every time. Just like anal beads and butt plugs, prostate massagers come in both static and vibrating options, with more luxurious styles offering wireless remote control features and rechargeable power.

How to insert a butt plug

The key for smooth insertion when using a butt plug first time is lubricant. Slather the tip and all down the body and neck of the butt plug with lubricant, plus a small amount to the entrance of your anus.
Hold the tip of the plug against your rosebud angled slightly towards your stomach. Gently push to insert the tip, then stop. Take your time to insert the full length of the plug. Your plug is fully inserted once the slim 'neck' of the plug is inside and the flared base rests against the outside of your bottom.
Once you're used to one size, move up to a bigger plug following the same steps.

Anal play for beginners

The trick to making anal play pleasurable is to make sure your partner is aroused first and apply lots of lube to both their anus and your finger or sex toy. Always start by rubbing the pad of your finger around the outside of the anus in a gentle, circular motion. Wait until the muscles relax, then insert your finger or toy a tiny way inside. Wait for the muscles to relax, then insert a little further. Keep inserting in this manner.
Fingers: Start with a pinkie inserted a tiny way; progress to the index finger over the next few sessions. After you've been doing this for a while, you could try inserting two fingers after that (hold them together to make one big one).
Rimming: Exploring the area with your tongue feels great their end and makes people realise how pleasurable anal stimulation can feel. If you're squeamish or worried about STIs lay a dental dam or cut up condom over the opening.
Butt plugs, glass butt plugs or vibrating butt plugs: If you enjoy the experience of using a butt plug, try some glass butt plugs. They slide in super easily, are hygienic, easy to clean and perfectly safe (because they're made from glass that won't snap, splinter or break). Twin set glass butt plugs are a good choice for first time anal play. Choose one which includes one plug that you leave in place and another massage-style plug that has a handle so can be angled, rocked and twisted once inserted. Perfect for prostate play and targeting the male 'G-spot'! Vibrating butt plugs are also extremely effective and popular.
Anal beads, probers and prostate massagers: The next logical step if you enjoyed your first time anal plug experience. Again, ONLY use toys that have a flared base to make sure they don't go in and stay in! Insert anal beads slowly, one bead at a time, and pull out gently. Gently does it with the prober or prostate massager as well.
Dildos: Glass dildos work well anally because they slide in easily and you can start small and work up to the same penis size as the person penetrating if you're trying to prepare the rectum for anal sex. Why not go straight for the real thing? Because the dildo isn't likely to get carried away and start manically thrusting before their partner is ready!